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Lisa:-) ~ A little Love Can Change A Life ~ A little Rain Can Straighten A Flower Stem ~ Anonymous
Monday, November 21, 2011
Do we give up on outcomes?
Adopting a special needs child has aged us many years. The minute by minute redirection really wears us down. After nearly 8 years of routine, our little girl still consistently forgets her homework, her lunch box, to brush her teeth at night. After 7 years of work, she still cannot do simple math and cannot tell time. At twelve years old, she is still wearing diapers to bed. The progress we see is so painfully slow it is simply numbing in scope. So the question then becomes do we sign off on her future potential the way parents with Down Syndrome children do? Knowing that there is a cap to her potential and that it is unfair to expect more? Do we lower our expectations, to save our sanity? Do we simply stop putting in the outrageous and unbalanced effort so as to save our health and use more of our energy on our other two perfectly self sufficient children?