That’s the thought we have when we find ourselves facing something (again) that we thought was behind us. After we get through a situation or feeling, we experience relief. We had a big “aha” so much to the extent that we feel transformed. So it can be frustrating when the Uni-verse delivers a situation that feels very similar (if not identical) to past experiences we thought we had already worked through. Wait, isn’t working on ourselves and extracting our lessons supposed to relieve us from having to go through the same thing over and over again?
Not necessarily. Sometimes you get a do-over.
Often we effectively move through a situation with complete confidence that we learned what we needed to learn so that we can prevent the same kind of thing from ever happening in the future. While it may be accurate you learned and have greater awareness, the Uni-verse is now bringing you an amazing opportunity to fully integrate the lessons and new insight.
One of the most powerful ways to heal and break a pattern is when we are experiencing it. Hindsight delivers great “aha” moments, but it often takes actually being in the kind of moments that trigger us for transformation to occur. Let me give you an example. I have a client whose dream is to make a living as a professional dancer. In our sessions, she would do amazing work on building her confidence and clearing limiting beliefs around her worth and abilities; yet, each time she would get close to landing a great gig, a roadblock would appear. She’d get injured, sick or something would go wrong with her house that needed her attention. She experienced great sadness and made it mean she was unworthy of her dreams and that the Uni-verse was “blocking” her from being a dancer.
This was not the case. The truth is the Uni-verse was giving her a do-over. Her entire life she had related to adversity from the perspective of a victim. Instead of being kind to herself, reframing her beliefs and moving through them with acceptance, she allowed things in her external environment to dictate her inner experience. So in the most recent roadblock scenario, she responded differently. Rather than going into victimhood, she embraced the circumstances, went through them lovingly, stepped into her worth, forgave herself for buying into the misunderstanding she was being “blocked”, and continued to move forward in the direction of her dream. She did all this while she was “in” the experience she had previously related to as a roadblock. . . and she booked her next gig.
Talking about how to shift an experience is a dress rehearsal, actually being in the experience and shifting your inner and outer response is the performance! When you get a do-over, it does not mean you are being tested – the Uni-verse doesn’t test us. It does not mean you did something wrong. In fact it doesn’t really mean anything. It is simply an opportunity to practice what you have learned.
So when the Uni- verse delivers a do-over, do this:
- Accept. Do not resist it, judge it, ignore it, or beg the Uni-verse to take it away.
- Remember. Use hindsight to remind yourself of the lessons you learned from past situations that have been similar and apply them! If you promised yourself not to date non-commitment minded people after your last heart-ache and an unavailable person comes your way, remind yourself that you don’t want to feel that way again.
- Forgive. Your freedom lies in forgiveness. Leverage this opportunity to forgive yourself or anyone else for judgments or resentments you may be holding on to that this situation is triggering.
- Chose. Make different choices inwardly and outwardly. Shift how you are treating yourself internally and take action steps in the external world that are different than what you’ve done before that lead you more in the direction you want to go.
Get excited about your do-overs!!
Do-overs are actually awesome doorways for spiritual transformation!! It means your soul is truly ready to release a pattern. Welcome your do-overs and respond inwardly and outwardly differently.
Lisa Ekanger Your Hometown Realtor!